I can barely add anything to this great blog post except to repeat a quote that must be one of the most idiotic things in an area full of idiotic things:
From Dr. Mary Anne Layden:
For example, the myth that women are sexually aroused by engaging in behaviors that are actually sexually pleasuring to men is a particularly narcissistic invention of the pornography industry. This is sexual mis-education.
This is not even “Nice girls don’t.” This is “Girls don’t, and only porn makes men think they do.”
One hardly knows where to begin, except to note that, yes, lovers (male or female) often find it arousing to please their partners in sexual ways. If someone doubts the truth of this, this person is as unqualified to make comments about sex as a fish is to comment on the ethics of flying.
What underlies this, of course, is a deeply held belief about sex: Male desire is corrupt and debased, and threatening to civilization. Female desire, as long as it does not resemble male desire, is pure and good. The absolute worst thing, of course, is female desire that resembles male desire, because that means that the woman in question has gone over to the other side; she’s not just an enemy, she’s a traitor.
If you doubt this, I offer two example terms:
Of course, one of the reasons for pointing out female ownership is to let women know that they are unlikely to run across some of the misogyny they probably see on web porn. We must remember that there is a lot of material out there that is amazingly malevolent toward females. Just because you don't promote it (or even carry it, since most of it doesn't meet your standards) doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Which reminds me to be thankful that Blowfish exists in the first place.
Posted by: Attila Girl at December 23, 2004 01:53 PM